“Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.” ~ Malcolm X

When dealing with adversity, seeing beyond the dark cloud can be difficult; and believing that the obstacle builds character may not be the most comforting thought at the time. Also, let’s be real, many of us do not like change. But we must (and eventually) adjust to life’s transitions. Once we do, we can see past the darkness, the “downs” become less heavy and we are able to see the positives in our negative situations.

#ResilientWarrior, Shane Timberlake—a father and fitness entrepreneur—exemplifies this shift in mentality and growth as an individual. I’ve known Shane for years and it’s great to see how far he’s come despite his challenging experiences.

We had the pleasure of interviewing Shane and getting insight on how he has overcome his downfalls, as well as his growth into fatherhood and his brand. Please take the time to know more about him and support B.A.M.N. fitness. He inspired me to take on my weight loss journey and I’m hopeful he can motivate you on your journey to a healthier, wholesome lifestyle.

Thank you, Shane.

What three words would you use to describe yourself? Why?

First word I would say is resilient! I've physically come from the bottom twice. I suffered two knee surgeries—that were seven years apart (patellar tendon ruptures). The first injury was tough because I almost died from a blood clot that was forming in my lung due to being dormant for a long period of time post-surgery. The second injury could've torn me down again, but I decided to fight back right away. I refused to suffer the same way I did the first time around!

The second word I would have to say is optimistic! Hitting rock bottom and seeing how positive and hopeful energy can change my outlook on a situation, has only led me to bigger and better things. The right frame of mind can cause amazing things! I'm living proof.

The third word would be relentless... in the words of Sean "Diddy" Combs, “Can't Stop Won't Stop.” (laughs) I am the dad of a five-year-old girl and that, right there, is enough reason for me to have the killer attitude and instinct to make things happen. From late nights to very early mornings, my mind is constantly racing on how to attack my next chapter and how to make it better than the last.

What has been your proudest accomplishment to date?

Besides helping to raise a beautiful child that I wasn't prepared for (just being honest), I would have to say legally licensing my company, B.A.M.N. FIT. Yea, it's easy to LLC something by going through legal zoom, or as I did, through the official government site, but it's the reason behind taking such a step. I was always known for never finishing something that I started… getting to a certain point and just stopping. I knew this was my calling and to make it an official company was so instrumental in what I believe to be my life's calling.

You are the founder of B.A.M.N., LLC. What does B.A.M.N stand for? When and why did you start this business venture?

It stands for “By Any Means Necessary”... People should recognize the slogan from the late great Malcolm X! From music to fitness, I've become a product of that slogan. Throughout my life, I’ve had moments where I’ve felt mentally and physically weak—but still, “By Any Means Necessary” I moved on and those moments made me the man who I am today.

Who or what is your main source of inspiration and why?

That’s too hard to pinpoint because my inspiration comes from all of the people that I see daily—getting their grind on and never settling for less! The people who get up, get out there and explore what this world has to offer!

Define resilience. What makes you resilient?

When I see, or hear the word "resilient" I automatically think, fighter! To be resilient is to have an animalistic ambition!

I’m resilient because I could have let my adversity break me. Instead, I fought that shit and became a savage! Also, me having a child was very influential in my journey to fight back. She needs a strong father in her life. One who can speak on downfalls that became wins. One who represents strength, positivity and to never quit!

Describe a difficult time where you felt defeated.

I'm going to have to go back to my first knee surgery. Just a week prior, I was dunking a basketball and all of a sudden I couldn’t walk without crutches. To top it all off, I was working off-the-book-jobs with no healthcare and had to use all of my savings to stay afloat.

At that point, I was mentally and physically defeated, depressed; I even messed up a two-year relationship because I didn't want to be bothered…wanted to be alone. A very dark and scary place for me.

I was afraid of dying. The blood clot could’ve been fatal. It sounds crazy but thank God for that sharp pain I had to warn me that something was wrong!

After the surgery was done, I couldn’t do much. I got so far behind on physical therapy that too much scar tissue began forming around my knee. The doctor told me they would have to re-tear the knee to correct it, and that "I would have so much metal in my knee, that I would never be able to walk through and airport without having to be checked for any weapons." (laughs) Meaning when they waive the wand next to my knee they would get reeeaaalllly suspicious of what I may be carrying (laughs).

I’m grateful for my family who was a huge help—especially my cousin, Brian aka Lotty B. He helped me with a lot of home rehabbing outside of my physical therapy appointments. Very painful process but he was there through it all.

You used to have a career in the Entertainment industry. Why did you, initially, follow this path?

My run with music was fun and eventful. From shows, to writing music, to singing, to being a Co-CEO of B.A.M.N. ENT etc... My team and I have seen and done things with music that had us thinking "yo guys! This is it! We’re about to get the big break we worked for.” My love for music and having talented friends and family shaped me to possess an unparalleled passion for creating music—that, at one point, many enjoyed.

Why did you switch from the Entertainment industry to becoming involved in fitness?

Sad to say this, but the lifestyle exhausted itself, at least from my point of view.

After a while I felt that I was going very hard for something I loved very much, but unfortunately, I felt the team effort that was needed, wasn't there. Music still drives me, but not the creation aspect anymore. I've always been an athlete so making the transition was smooth. I started to workout just to become stronger, faster, and aesthetically pleasing. After overcoming my injuries, I've acquired so much knowledge about the human body and its functions—I became fascinated. I found myself wanting to share this knowledge with others and learn from them as well… which explains my decision to take the fitness journey seriously and make it a lifestyle.

Recently, you posted on Instagram that you were featured in a music video. How was that experience and will you do similar work in the future?

That was definitely a very cool experience! Shoutout to the very talented Meghan Irving for selecting me to be a part of that project. There was a specific part of the video where we had to argue, and because I generally don't argue and haven't been in a relationship in a loooooong time—and when I was, it was pretty peaceful—I had to be coached on how to properly argue or at least look like I was (laughs). I would definitely do something like that again. It was super fun and professional.

As an entrepreneur, what advice would you give to others who may be taking on a similar path as you?

I would say, don't expect anything to come easy without work and without marketing your skill to the best of your ability. Your style of things may not be for everybody, BUT you are for somebody. Stay hungry, embrace change, stay confident, and stay optimistic because just when you think no one is watching, someone actually is.

One of my favorite quotes by the great Michael Jordan is "you miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take.” That's something to always keep in mind as an entrepreneur. How will you know if anything is going to work if you don't give it a try? Don't go down as the greatest thing to NEVER happen!

How has fatherhood changed your life?

Fatherhood has taught me to be a provider and a protector! Raising a child in this day and age can be very challenging because of the many outside influences. In my opinion, raising a girl in this cold world is a bit more challenging than it is raising a boy. It's my job to make sure a strong and abled man is always present in her life. To the best of my ability, I want to steer her away from some of the bad decisions she may or may not make.

What advice do you have for fathers who are taking on the entrepreneurial route and are trying to balance fatherhood with accomplishing their career goals?

My advice would be to make sure that you create a healthy work and parenting balance. I am trying to make that better daily. Working for yourself is a 24/7 task, so making sure your child knows that you are constantly there in any way, shape or form is very important.

Maybe that’s shaving off some work hours and spending extra quality time. For me, I involve my daughter in my work. She helps me with my fitness classes—whether it's handing out towels, water, or even participating in the actual class if she's up to it (laughs).... As long as you find a healthy work and parenting balance that works for you, that’s what matters!

Where do you see your brand headed in the next ten years?

In 10 years, I would like to have a successful fitness studio, and some reputable sponsors. I'm going to continue to put in great and honest work, while networking with people who have a similar passion. I see big things for the B.A.M.N. brand.

What projects can people expect to see from you?

As of late, I've been in some professional fitness and lifestyle shoots. My sister, who used to model, is going to help me put a portfolio together and hopefully land some more fitness shoot gigs, as well as anything that may come with that. However, my main goal, as that's happening simultaneously, is to master online training so I can work with people all over the world without having to physically be there. Be on the lookout for that as well!

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